Dale Carnegie writes about it exhaustively in How To Win Friends And Influence People. You must be subtle when you try to add value. Carnegie says:Active Mindset vs Passive Mindset: How To Control Your Destiny8.9K30Darius ForouxBrian PennieJul 6, 2018·1 min readSuper super book… my favorite people principle from it: “Talk in terms of other peoples interests”!!!